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AITA for falling in love with my father in law after my wife deliberately told me she was uncomfortable with me expressing my feeling for him?
for context I (M40) and my wife C (F41) have been married for 16 years and have three wonderful children. from the beginning her father j (m65) hasn't been close with me. but since my father died I've gotten daddy issues. I've been looking for j's approval for the entirety of my marriage but he just seemed to ignore me. he seemed to have a secret, maybe he was hiding something from his wife. but after my father my passed he seemed to be more intimate with me, flirty almost. he touched my arm affectionately when handing me a cup of ice or grazing my upper thigh when we watch football together. one time stands out when he groped my butt while passing by, but when I confronted him he denied it. I think that's when my feelings started. it sparked something. these feelings continued for weeks. I felt guilty for not telling my wife so one night I confessed to her. she explained how she wasn't comfortable being married to a loser like me. I got angry and stormed out to go to j's house for comfort. when I got there his wife g (f35) wasn't there. I explained our fight but left out the details of it so he wouldn't know I liked him. I told him how I was feeling done with my relationship with c and he seemed secretly happy for my decision but it's probably just because he never thought I was good enough for his daughter... after my talk with him I felt better and decided to go back home and apologize to my wife, I was mainly worried my kids would be upset. Now I don't know what to do because I still have feelings for J but also for my wife. I have never felt these feelings for a guy before even though people have assumed I was gay in the past. Please help!