Okay so I few chapters back when Bitty came out I was rolling my eyes because I thought I knew how this was going to go. Because I have read way too many fics where someone comes out and their family is like 'well of course you are, we always knew' and all their fears are just swept away and everything is fine. And it always annoys me because it invalidates their very reasonable fears about how their families might react. And I thought you were going to do the same thing, but then Coach was bi and I realized that maybe this was all going to go differently. I really love this talk, that while Bitty's parents failed him it felt real and believable and we see Coach's struggle too. That he has had to hide his whole life. I've been so enjoying this fic so far and I am so happy that you took this where you did!
elizajane
on Chapter 31
Tue 28
Jun 201601:28AM UTC
This comment makes me SO HAPPY because as a queer person I also get really frustrated by stories that overplay the acceptance of the person or people coming out -- because like you said it really invalidates the struggle so many of us still have within our families and communities being accepted and loved for who we are. I knew I wanted to make Eric's parents ultimately supportive -- I didn't want to just reflexively make the Southern parents bigots -- but I also didn't want to hand-wave away the pain and isolation of the closet and the fear of rejection that makes you look over your shoulder constantly even if your parents talk a good progressive politics game. It's still scary to come out. So I wanted to build something positive while also complicating and honoring that experience -- and I'm so glad it's working for you as a reader! <3
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