Prologue: A Word of Advice (and a bit of Devil’s Advocacy)
People say that love is, instantaneous. That you’ll see someone and think, yes, this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, this is the person who was made just for me. In reality, it takes a lot more work than that. Love is a choice, a challenge, a compromise. You’ll always hit highs and lows. Inside and outside influences will try to steal your joy. But at the end of the day, if it’s meant to be it will be.
Anyone single could tell you all of that easily, of course. It’s a fallacy spread by those long since married that love should be a simple joyride without any bumps or blocks. I think that’s because it’s easy to forget the struggle after the fact. I hardly remember the suffering we all went through to find each other when I see my soulmate standing in the garden, our two daughters by their side. It’s amazing that only a year ago I thought I’d lose all three of them. How times change.