Comment on Upcoming changes to kudos

  1. Add me to the count of users here who struggle with anxiety—but I didn’t think the comment was “harshly antagonistic” or “condescending” as you thought it to be. I didn’t even think it was “lashing out”. In fact, I thought your barb about “Having empathy doesn't cost a thing and a little goes a long way” and accusations about being “childish” and “unnecessarily dismissive about disabilities” were far more antagonistic. But that might be just me.

    The user above was asking a questions I thought of while reading this thread, and I’m sure many others have as well: how is it users in favor of extra kudos are too anxious to comment on stories they legitimately love but show up to argue against this change in kudos, sometimes repeatedly? I understand that anxiety manifests in illogical ways, but and yet I find myself continually thinking back to that question as I read comment after comment saying the same thing.

    I mentioned earlier that I struggle with anxiety, and I will admit that it often makes commenting difficult for me. So many times I’ve almost backed away from hitting the comment button because I feel like nothing I have to say could be worthwhile or could matter to the author. What possible use could my comment be?

    But then I remind myself how happy I am as a writer am to get comments, how anxious I feel about posting a new fic or a chapter to silence, and how bad I feel when it gets ignored. And I use that empathy to motivate myself to comment—I’ve loved this fic, and I want the author to know it. After all, if I were the author, I’d want to know if readers loved it.

    Not sure where I was going with this, maybe that will help another person out there who struggles with anxiety—to remember that writers are dealing with it as well. I try to think that if they can push through their anxiety for me, I can return the favor and push through for them.

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    1. As an author suffering from several types of untreated anxiety disorders, thank you! This sums up my feelings on the matter perfectly. I've gotten better with practice but it is still gut-wrenching at times to post, especially as a ""problematic"" writer who has gotten more than a few hate comments and threats. The ones who feel the same as me, who commiserate, are one of my primary reasons for pushing on.

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