It’s not what a man would wish for.
Two of his children are dead, and Ziva has willfully abandoned family and country. Her choice to become a US citizen was a supremely well-chosen way to inflict pain on him.
Eli’s one source of comfort in this unfortunate situation is his friendship with Vance. He can ask how Ziva is doing and trust that he is getting an almost honest answer, usually something to the effect that Gibbs takes care of his people.
He accepts the implied rebuke along with the reassurance.
Perhaps Ziva will live to say Kaddish for him.